I think we have all been there at one point or another and maybe even now. We wonder why we keep having bad luck or why things happen the way they happen to us. We even compare ourselves to the “luck” that others have and wonder how we can get that “luck”.
I remember I used to wonder those same things and blame it on luck. I had an external locus of control, meaning I blamed my outcomes on external things that were out of my control. I started to understand that I was in control of my own outcomes when I first started college. Something clicked in my head for some reason and I decided to push myself and realized that if I kept doing what I was doing that I would keep getting what I was getting.
I realized that even though I believed that I could control my outcomes, that people would ALWAYS be there to try and knock me down. That’s when I decided to focus on doing what needed to be done in order to get what I wanted to get. It required hard work and a lot of discipline, but I started seeing that you can accomplish anything you put my mind to if you step out of your comfort zone.
I still practice that to this day and challenge people to step out of their comfort zone so that they too can get what they want by changing what they are doing.